Mommy Dearest!

I fondly call her mummy. She became my closest confidant during the harshest period of my life. Somehow when I lost faith in myself, she was the one who reignited the flame in me to  believe in myself and my dreams. In her own small ways she has pushed me in the forward direction. Some of the most important things dat I learnt from her include positive thinking, faith in God d almighty, to always look at both sides of a coin, never judge someone without knowing them personally, help the needy, always maintain a certain distance from everyone and yet be close to them, never act as middle men, be independent and support those in need, few kind words or love have immense power to brighten someones future (as do poisonous words kill ones dreams), want not waste not, our eyes and ears are deceptive and mostly see and hear only that what we wish to rather than that what is true- so always look for the truth, TRUTH - is the might and the one thing which even God does not have the power to deny, never accept favors from others which you might not be able to repay at a later date, respect one and all and they will have no choice but to do the same in return, the one support you can always count on is family support especially during trying times (widout it you would definitely be morally broke), problems are best solved by consulting your elders and seniors rather then keeping them hidden from them, you can never have enough people to vouch for your lies- so just  say d truth and be done with the pain, whenever you can not change the person in front of you, change yourself- they will definitely change in the process, your thoughts actually have the power to become reality (try it), good deeds never go unrewarded, learn from your past and take only that which will lead you onwards, that which can not be achieved by words can be achieved with silence, others pain can never give you happiness etc. etc. etc..............

Oh I remember very well how I must have given her hell with my stubborn attitude as a small girl, the crying fits, the angry jibes etc. and yet she persisted in bringing out the better me. Some time in my childhood I hated english. My mom would actually make me discuss the essay topics at first, write a rough draft with all the discussed points, have the essay written in my own words, make stupendous corrections /additions/deletions in the process. All of the above process would make me extremely angry but today I'm thankful to her for putting in that precious time just to correct my essays time and again. As a working mother some might feel she could have hardly had time to instill values/morals of good taste and yet here we (me and my brother) stand proudly. She has worked all her life before and after we were born just to make our life more beautiful and comfortable. She literally has a lions share in all the worldy benefits that we enjoy today in our life. Infact, despite having a job which today's best of engg's can only dream of she is humble and down to earth. Somehow she is one of the simplest person I've ever come across. Ever ready to help one and all, she mostly forgets to take care of her own needs. The needs which for a high paid women like her are few, namely love and wellfare of her children. There are many other greater deeds which she has performed and of which she is simply not proud or haughty. But one thing is for sure she is THE BEST MOM in the whole wide world.

LUV YA TONS MUMMY........:))))

Back with a BANG!!!

  Ahhhh! Exams over, done with the family trip and now I guess is the time to start gearing up for some personal growth. Its irritating to know that you have heaps of work piled up and  are unable to decide on a good enough sequence to execute your plans. So many small ideas are born and  inadvertently die an infant's death. There was a time when I used to quib about the slow progress of our day today life. But now I know you actually need strong conviction in your ideas and the strength to go the extra mile with a razor sharp focus. Besides you need convincing skills and the power to win people over to your side. 

  Each of the above skills are equally present in every individual who can eat, sleep and work. The only difference between those who are able to convince others about their ideas and those who can not, is the level of conviction and the hunger to accomplish what you start. Every individual muddles in numerous paths and thus remain undecided on the one path which will lead to his salvation or rather success. Though fear of failure is one of the major reasons for people refraining from taking a step ahead, most people either put all their eggs in one basket or others simply put the eggs in numerous baskets making it difficult for them to be able to keep track at the end of  the day.

   If everyone were to have a single goal say being happy in life/rich etc., getting what they want would be a lot easier(of course with a lot of hard work). The best example would be a game of football or basketball. Both games require a team to score in the goal post of the opposite team. Thus, both teams have a single goal i.e. to score in the opposite teams goalpost. Every team player dedicates his/her skills to see to it that they achieve the goal in time. It is only then that a win is possible.

   Beyond the actual game lies the window of success or failure with equal probability. However, am sure everyone of you will agree that an actual win or loss does not mean that the same team can not reverse the outcome in another game. Though life is not necessarily a game, it still requires individuals to have a single goal and a wish to achieve it in the given time frame. After the game even if one were to lose it, one can still make a come back in the next game.

    After all, life is as Darwin stated Survival of the fittest.

Paper or Tablet?

  The surge of so many tablets, androids, reading devices etc. make me wonder whether ten years down the line we will be using paper or rather e-paper. It is only logical that as telegrams, telephones, pagers, mobiles, PC's, laptops, smart phones, androids, tablets... replaced each other in the order of their occurrence, that in the near future our kids will make use of touch pads/tablets to study rather than pen and paper. Can we call it a revolution?
   Classic paper lovers like me (not that I do not like the concept of ebooks) believe that reading devices or tablets will only lead to strained eyes from a very young age for one and all. At mid twenties I feel my eyes straining from the constant visual barrage and information overload. Though literally speaking technology is supposed to simplify life, it is in actual sesnse making it that much more complicated. How many people will confess to their hard copy books being stolen? In contrast our hi-tech gadgets are always a lure for the thieves. Besides they are a treasure trove of personal information. They can simply provide the holder valuable information about your likes/dislike, work and other sensitive personal information. Not to forget uncle Sam can always poke his dirty nose when needed to get to you.
    So all in all, how good is a device which can give you away, strain your eyes (to die an early death), cause a lot of toxic waste especially when you throw away your old devices/batteries etc.? How good is all this in contrast to our good old hard books? Am a techno lover but also love the classic styles. It is time that will tell if I stay loyal to the good old days or switch over to the dark side!!!
  

Learning Curve

   Ever since I made up my mind to be successful (in the years to follow...:P), I've inadvertently realized that I'll need to take on a learning curve that goes up with time and believe me guys it is not an easy task. It takes enough time, patience, hard work and determination on your part to actually learn something.

   Take the simple example of a child learning to stand/walk/talk, it requires time and persistence on his/her part to be able to do the above activities. Next up, you can take the example of learning a language. It is by no means a small feat and requires dedication and actual practice. If you were to make a list, it would surely be an endless one. Once I read an article where they stated that simply saying 'Thank you' or 'Sorry' can make a huge difference on the receivers day and yours indirectly. Following it took quiet some exercise on my part. Till date I'm still practicing the novel mannerism and try to use the phrases as generously as possible. Next up, the simple task of looking for relevant information on the internet and at the same time assimilating it is an arduous task. I guess learning comes still further on the same path. 

 It has only helped reinforcing the fact that learning is an ongoing process which will take place as long as you wish to move ahead in life. For those who are satisfied it will actually stop or may even take a downward trend. Downward because today life is changing at a lightening pace and unless you wish to keep up you will else you are bound to fall back. 

  And yes it takes TIME which is quiet a costly commodity for someone like you and me....

  

Why be sad/disheartened?

  It is very common to see people become sad /disheartened/angry etc. at others. Many even get angry with people whom they hardly know. Think back in time and am sure you will be able to recall more than one occasion when you must have felt the same. The root cause in most situations is the fact that we directly or indirectly expect some or the other behavior from these people and when they do not comply we become angry/sad and so on. 

  Don't you think it feels quiet childish to expect from others. I believe in the fact that why expect from others when we are capable ourselves! Let me relate this statement with an example. Say in the recent days some of my MMS classmates were miffed that I and some others formed a project group of bright people. They were of the view that we should've consulted them before forming a new group. What they did not realize is that each and every individual tries to do their best and their relaxed attitude towards project and presentations had prompted us to make the changes in our groups. So, why should forming a new group cause them to be angry at their colleagues? 

  The above situation actually highlights the common insight people hold in day today life. What most people look at is only one side of the coin. They perceive such a situation as a problem and get angry/sad etc. However, if one were to look at the other side, they would see an opportunity to come out of the shadow of bright people in the class and make a positive impression of their own on the faculty. It will in effect make them more cautious and at the same time increase their determination to prove themselves. If perceived in the right angle the above situation can actually turn into a beneficial one to one and all. 

  My only advise would be deflate your ego, reduce your expectations and look at every problem as an opportunity and viola you have a path to success. In my view until you are able to do the same you will never be able to face the many problems that life has to offer..........

Hmmmm

 Its quiet frustrating to not have your laptop in working condition. Am actually feeling disconnected from the whole wide world. Its a shame that now that our study leave is going on I won't be able to practice my writing skills. Just hoping that my laptop gets back in shape as soon as possible. I've planned to pen down few tips on how to regain ones positive attitude with the right attitude....
 Wait and watch this space in the coming days.....

In Lime Light!!!

 Am just so happy to get a chance to anchor our college seminar tomorrow. It is a small step which I hope will be a beginning of a long journey. Somehow I'll have to credit the opportunity to my attitude of being positive always. Some of you may question how so, but the fact remains that a positive attitude inspires us to work in the directions of our goals. It is exactly what am wishing for at the moment, to walk the talk and make things happen as they never have in my life. 

 A new journey of being positive always which allows me to convert even the most trying difficulties into opportunities and look beyond the obvious. It actually helps me to forget my worries and in fact try and work on the tasks at hand. If you will believe, it has taken a lot of practice on my part to think positively always even on the most sad days. But the magic it creates and the opportunities that it provides which you would never be able to see with full eyes is tremendous.

 Some day I hope to pass on the Positive always attitude to my near and dears ones and grant them a chance to be happy at all times. 

For the time being I guess I would like very much to enjoy some lime light and actually increase my presentation skills in front of a gathering.....

Wish me luck!!!!

Height of multitasking!!!

Am sure those of you, who are virtually online always will find my statement a tad pathetic but can't help it, can I?

Well the above heading refers to the fact that I actually opened two accounts on a single day on twitter and linkedin, at the same time published my blog links on fb to actually increase my so called traffic or rather get a review from people whether it is viable or not. But most people seem to be too busy to give me a simple reply whether the blog is up to the mark or needs some zing to it.

All this I've been doing when I should be actually completing my assignment which am supposed to submit tomorrow, prepare for a presentation and study for two class tests.......PHEW. How much can a person actually work before collapsing on the bed. Well am tired beyond measure and yet a few inspiring words from one of our faculty rekindled the writing spirit in me which feared extinction over the period. So, cheers to all those readers/writers out there trying their measly luck on an oceanic platform......

Still loads to learn in the times to come..............

Attention Attention!!!

Lets begin where we left last time. So, do you really think the attitude of being positive always can help you to get your message through to other people. My honest answer would be a yes and a no. Yes because if you have the will, you'll surely achieve what you want and no because its not always in your hand(simply put).

Hmmmm, we all know how exactly a toddler grabs the attention of the elders in its vicinity. It inadvertently cries out LOUD. So, as adults what would you think of a person crying loud to make his statement heard. Am sure you would be least bothered and ask them to cry on some others' shoulder. Other means of doing the same include dialogue or rather a negotiation with the higher authority. When all else fails Mahatma Gandhi's Satyagraha comes in handy. I have a high level of respect for the great Mahatma but the way his teachings have been maligned over the passing years alarms me. 

To protest for a noble cause without affecting the common people and on the other hand resorting to protest every time your demands are not met ( with little or no concern for the public at large) is in fact a gross misinterpretation of satyagraha in general. 

So, what would you call a modern day satyagraha/protest? I would rather call it an attention seeking gimmick by people who wish to get their desires fulfilled. I mean, don't you think it has become quiet common to hear of different protests undertaken by people in general to get their wishes fulfilled by the government. You've doctors, pharmaceutics shop owners, fuel station owners, taxi unions, professors, lawyers etc. going on strike every other day. It feels like they are shouting 'Attention Attention!!!' to the government and the masses at large about their dissatisfaction and demands. At the end of the day who are the real losers or the people most affected by it? Obviously the common man. There are so many instances of people dying due to medical neglect as it is and on such occasions the no. of cases just shoot up. In order to make government or authorities realize their situation people are ready to make matters worse for the other people around them. 

These are hardly the teaching of the great Mahatma. It actually feels like people are using a potential tool in a very gross manner. So, whom should you blame, the protesters, the government or the indifferent authorities?   

All are to blame or none. For every one his/her problems are more important than those of others. But, how would you solve such a problem. The problem actually signifies the similarities between a small child trying to grab the attention of its elders. If you observe carefully and match the references you will be able to make the inferences to which I'm referring.  

So the question again arises whether we have really grown up or not? 

Grown Up Or Not?

    I was just browsing through a website on free debate and it struck me as to whether we have really grown up to be adults or are we becoming more child like in our behavior with each passing day.

    Let me share with you first what I felt relates to being child like:
- We all love our online social life and would safeguard it as much as we would our integrity in real life situations.
- We all like to stand out in the ever increasing crowd both online and off it.
- We would all love to be recognized by our close circles as well as other people at large.
- We make conscious/subconscious efforts to be in the lime light.
- We would like very much to have a good many followers and in the mean time a stage to exhibit our true inner self (one which may be other wise ridiculed by our close family and friends)

    In short what do you think we are behaving like?

    Don't you feel that we behave just like a toddler trying to grab the attention of all those in its vicinity.

    So the basic question that arises is whether we have really grown up or have we started behaving child like.

    My analysis leads me to the conclude that we have actually started behaving child like. At every turn of events we want some or the other people to be our devoted audience who will clap every time we perform a task. We very much wish to be appreciated and thought to be unique in ourselves. But then the question arises whether we are really unique or not.......

    I think we are not. We all are human beings with fairly similar needs at core. What really distinguishes us from each other is our inner drive to reach our goals from time to time without actually trying to woo the masses at each and every turn of events. You actually need to be positive always about your idea and try to work it out in order to really achieve it.

   Here's to our similarities and our differences!!!

Why stay positive always?

      It's 8.45 pm and am writing my first official blog on why you should stay positive always.

    Here are a few questions for everyone in which am  sure one and all would have failed innumerable times before achieving any degree of success....
- How many times did you fall down before you learnt to stand/walk/ride bicycle etc. ?
- How many times you babbled incoherently before you could actually structure a sensible word or a sentence?
- How many times you tried to learn repeatedly your studies before you could answer correctly?
- How many times were you scolded before you could differentiate between what is right and what is wrong?
- How many times you have said you can't do something and later found out you could actually do it with little or  more efforts?
- How many times have you felt sad/depressed and yet after a certain period again became joyous/cheerful?

    The list can be endless and the answer for each of the above questions is innumerable. So what is it exactly that makes us overcome difficult times or even face them for that matter. It is nothing but being positive always. A baby is never depressed on falling down but rather knows that one day it will be able to walk like its elders. This is the best example of why you should stay positive always.